Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Risk 2 Draft #1


Anime sun with smiling face


With less than a week to go before the next Dread Poet's meeting, it's probably opportune to set aside other projects and procrastinations and work on my poetry for the theme 'risk'. I'm not thrilled with my first effort (see previous posts), have written a couple I am happy with but don't want to publish here as I intend submitting them for publication so - it's back to the drawing board - or the blank page in this instance.

I've had an idea running around in my mind for the past few days about my grandfather that I'd like to poeticise. He was an old man when I was born so my memories of him are few, however, the ones I do have remain strong and it is one of these I'd like to write about.

my grandfather lay on the couch
a benign Mr Toad after a full lunch
hands supporting his round belly

I stand, face frozen in a smile
(he calls me his smiley),
that becomes painful to hold
yet I am fearful of it slipping
fearful of him
forgetting me
without its reminder

he recites Wordsworth
in the burr of his mother country
I fall into the thrall of his words

I sing, you are my sunshine
(too young to know I can't carry a tune)
his moustache bristles into a smile,
his eyes laugh
  
and my smile relaxes 
into its rightful place


Friday, June 7, 2013

Risk Draft #6




Draft #6

If she ever thought about him
and she tried not to,
for it reminded her
of the unravelling of her youth,
she supposed the attraction
had been in his daring,

his         defiance of convention,
his         reliance on chance

an attraction that faded
with the onset of parenthood;

           a bigger world
           than the ego 
           of inexperience,

understanding too late
the only risk taken
had been in choices
of her own making.



This has to be the last draft of this poem - for a while at least. I'll set it aside for a couple of weeks (to rise perhaps) and see what I think about it then. As it stands, I don't like it and I suspect I never will but...

Thursday, June 6, 2013

Risk Draft #5



Draft #5

If she ever thought about him
and she tried not to,
for it reminded her
of the unravelling of her youth,
she supposed the attraction
had been in his daring,
his defiance of convention,
his reliance on chance
an attraction that faded
with the onset of parenthood;
and responsibility beyond self
     a bigger world
     than the ego 
     of inexperience,
understanding too late
the only risk taken
had been in choices
of her own making.

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Risk Draft #4



Draft #4

If she ever thought about him
and she tried not to,
for it reminded her
of the unravelling of her youth,
she supposed the attraction
had been in his daring,
his defiance of convention,
an attraction that faded
with the onset of parenthood
and responsibility beyond self
     a bigger world
     than the ego 
     of inexperience
understanding too late
the only risk taken
had been in choices she’d made
of her own making.

Monday, June 3, 2013

Risk Draft #3


Mother And Child Clip Art

Draft # 3

If she ever thought about him
and she tried not to,
for it reminded her
of the unravelling of her youth,
she supposed the attraction
had been in his daring,
his bold-faced defiance of convention,
an attraction that left faded
with the onset of parenthood
and responsibility beyond self
understanding too late
the only risk taken
had been in choices she’d made.

Thursday, May 30, 2013

Risk Draft # 2





Draft # 2

If she ever thought about him
and she tried not to,
for it reminded her
of the unravelling of her youth,
she supposed the attraction
had been in his daring,
his bold-faced defiance
of convention,
an attraction that left
with  marriage and the onset of parenthood
and responsibility beyond self
understanding too late
only then had she seen the weakness
behind alcohol induced swagger,
knowing the only risk taken
had been in choices she’d made.

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Risk Draft #1



Risk 1st draft

This is the first draft of a poem written in response to the word 'risk'. A bit rough but I'll work on this each day, marking up changes as it develops.


If she ever thought about him
and she tried not to,
for it reminded her
of the unravelling of her youth,
she supposed the attraction
had been in his daring,
his bold-faced defiance
of convention,
an attraction that left
with  marriage and parenthood
only then had she seen the weakness
behind alcohol induced swagger,
knowing the only risk taken
had been in choices she’d made.


Tuesday, May 28, 2013

The weary blogger







This blog has been languishing for a while now, not quite hibernating but not a lot of action either.  I have a number of writing projects at various stages, but the main culprit is the time taken up with genealogy research where, as the ad for Ancestry.com says, one leaf leads to another, stretching back through the years in a sort of reverse growth pattern.  And when the leaves stop quivering, there's always Trove, where the past can be mined and treasures translated onto the page bringing the past into the present as some weird form of ancestor worship. This twelve month project is now halfway through its second year and I'm still hesitant to give an end date.

In between times, I am finding time to write new poems. A monthly requisite for the poetry group I attend is the creation of a poem written to a word theme - I never used to like themes much - but finding the prompts useful these days and it's always interesting to see and  hear how others have interpreted the theme, except for this month when it was my turn to choose the word and I blurt out the first word that comes to mind 'Risk'. 

Now where did that come from? I'm sure there's some deep Freudian explanation for this, however, I'll leave that one alone. So 'risk' it is and, what do you know, I'm stuck for words. I've written two poems that started out as a response yet ended quite differently - satisfyingly different but quite wide of the mark. 

I guess it's back to the blank page, or blank blog page to be more precise as I intend using this poetry prompt as a springboard back to regular blogging. Beginning tomorrow, I will start the drafting process - similar to an activity I undertook a couple of years ago with traditional poetry forms to show the development of a poem from concept to completion - and this is not without risks of its own.



Wednesday, May 15, 2013

2013 Victorian Premier's Literary Award Shortlist





I received the following email this morning.

'Thank-you for your entry to the 2013 Victorian Premier's Literary Award for an Unpublished Manuscript by an emerging Victorian writer.

Unfortunately your entry did not make the shortlist,this year, but we thank you for your submission and congratulate you on all the effort that goes into completing and submitting a manuscript.

We received a particularly high number of entries this year- 131 in total. The shortlist consists of three, and will be announced tomorrow via The Wheeler Centre website and a press release from the Premier.

We welcome you to join us for the announcement of the winner next Thursday 23 May (invitation attached).' 


This was pretty much what I expected, given there is only a week before the big event, but there is always that spark of optimism, that hope against hope, that you will be one of the chosen - but it wasn't to be. The shortlist came down to three, which makes it a very short shortlist indeed and a very long list of those in whose company I now stand - 128 in total who didn't make the first cut. 


Of course I can crack hardy, pretend I don't care, that I have other plans afoot - but the truth is I don't have other plans for the novel right now, as I've simply immersed myself in other projects while waiting for the miracle of inclusion and acceptance, so one or the other will have to be put on the back burner for the moment. I suspect it will be the novel. I think I'll leave it sulking on the hard drive for a while, complete my current projects and then take it by the hand and drag it out for another outing.

Chin chin fellow unshortlisted ones and sincere congratulations to those who made it. Well done!

Friday, May 10, 2013

A Mother's Day Read

The Little Mongrel - free to a good home

An Insight into Adoption Practice in 20th Century Australia 





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'The Little Mongrel' is the fourth child adopted into a family already in a crisis of dysfunction. She lives with her family in an affluent suburb, where the secrets of the family are hidden behind a veneer of respectability and within the attic bedroom she shares with a growing family of adopted and fostered siblings, a colony of bush rats, and the eerie spectres of her troubled mind. 

Merlene spends her childhood in a struggle to understand who she is and what her place is within the family, as she seeks refuge in the fantasy of her birth mother’s return, and in her quest for invisibility against her adoptive mother’s rage against life. In this environment she learns the tools for survival, finding resilience in humour and survival through quick wit.


At thirteen Merlene is sent to live with a family in another town; another household of internal secrets and oppressive silence. She is sent home in disgrace, as a result of false accusations made by her would-be abuser, and the die is cast. She spends most of the next three years in institutional care, which includes the notorious Mt St Canice, Convent of the Good Shepherd, in Hobart Tasmania, and Winlaton Youth Training Centre in Victoria. It is in the latter that she is subjected to a regime of physical deprivation and psychological abuse that tests to the limit the survival skills she has practiced throughout her childhood. She absconds over the barbed wire fence and for two months, she lives by her wits on the streets of Melbourne and the highways of Victoria before her apprehension and return to the institution. 


At sixteen, Merlene is released to her home in Tasmania, with only her determined attitude and a defiant optimism that she will never be deprived of her liberty again, to stand against the whims of her adoptive mother.




Saturday, May 4, 2013

Competition page updates




I have just updated the writing and poetry competition pages for May, June and July (just follow the links for each month) and while I'm aware I've only touched the tip of the iceberg in what I present on these pages, I never ceased to be amazed at the opportunities that abound for writers and poets from all levels of experience. 

Entering competitions can be a useful way of refining your self-editing and proofing skills, to ensure the words and format make your poems speak as intended and/or preparing short stories according to competition guidelines.

Whether submitted in hard copy or electronically, presentation (like any first impression) is all important.  

When going through publisher's and competition guidelines at a workshop many years ago, I was amazed to hear one woman argue against following set any criteria - refusing to double space or follow other formatting guidelines as requested because she refused to waste paper. What she couldn't understand was, her refusal to comply led to 'waste' anyway, as her entry wouldn't have made the first cut.  

If a competition is worth entering, it should be worth spending time reading and following the guidelines to make sure you poem/story has every chance of reaching the first short-list at least.

Another observation on competitions is, after it's all over, after you've polished your story to perfection, formatted exactly as requested, sent it off and waited... 

not letting yourself expect to receive the phone call or email to inform you're in the running, yet hoping, therefore expecting, it anyway - and nothing... 

just the long silence of self-doubt...

this is when you know intuitively you've missed the list with this one...

when you put the 'Oh well' smile on your face well in advance of the formal announcement of winners...

but still hoping...

someone phoned and you missed the call...

the email diverted to your spam folder...

until the date of the announcement passes and it's someone else on the podium smiling graciously...

while you applaud, frozen smile on face, from the sidelines...

What you do next is pick up your bike from where it landed when you fell, get back on and pedal on to the next opportunity. Don't look back to see why your entry didn't make it this time - and I mean this time, because there's always another competition around the corner (and doesn't the sheer volume of competitions tell your that) and who knows what the next judge's preferences are. 

I suggest you don't look back to see what was 'wrong' with your entry, but look instead at the winning entries to see what it was about them that made them stand out. This is most often one of the best ways to turn a negative into a positive - to step aside from your own work and say, 'I can see why this story/poem won,' because the recognition of quality elevates your own work when viewed as having been in the company of other illuminaries.






Monday, April 29, 2013



KUNDELA by Terry L Probert

Book Launch


Kundela, the debut novel of author Terry L Probert, will be officially launched in the South Australian town of Orroroo, a fitting venue for this story which is set in the mid north/Flinders Ranges area of South Australia. 

When:              Tuesday 30th April 

What time:     7.00 pm

Where:             The Orroroo Community Library

Call in and meet the author, buy a copy and have a good read. If you can't make it on the night, copies can be purchased by contacting the author  at kundela@bigpond.com and receive free postage for all mail orders. 


The recommended retail price of the book is $29.95 including GST. 

Email your name and address details for payment options. 


About the book:
Joe Gillespie’s family have farmed this country for three generations and his only real problem is the continuing drought. His wife, Laura, is an anthropologist who has strong ties to the area’s indigenous people. Finding a clay panned steer renews the friendship between Joe and Jeff Rankin, an Aboriginal police officer based at Port Augusta. The dead animal coincides with the arrival of a bikie gang suspected of trashing the Gillespie homestead. Joe and Laura find the gang camped in a sacred site where they are holding a young woman captive. Seeing gang members are about to violate her, Joe and Laura act to save her, using a combination of bush lore and knowledge of Aboriginal culture. When Jeff examines the bikies camp he becomes suspicious of the origin of damage. The girl later dies before giving evidence, the police case falls apart and detectives charge Joe with malicious damage. To clear his name he must break the Official Secrets Act. Leaving these concerns behind in Adelaide, Joe attempts to return to normal life on the farm. Checking his stock and water, he finds dead cattle littering the well paddock and returning to the homestead realises he has driven into a trap. Unknown assailants pursue him through the farm and onto the Hammond road where he outruns them. He musters his family in the hotel and reports the incident to police. Two stories of love wind though the text, the love shared by Joe and Laura and the love of the land where they live. It is a mystery laced with Kurdaitcha Men and Aboriginal themes, humour and loyalty linking the people in the Gillespie’s life.


Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Titles

Titles

The whole time I've been writing and editing Seth I never thought about any other title - until this morning - when I played around with a whole host of alternatives before selecting one. 

I think what it was, I had become so used to Seth as a working title, I hadn't looked beyond this to something that might better reflect the contents. I'd become comfortable with the familiarity  - a bit like self-editing, I suppose, when  we begin to see what we think we've written rather than seeing the glaring typo or awkward sentence. 

I wanted a title that was an abbreviation of the book, to condense 103,000 words into less than one sentence and still tell a story. I started out with a list of words, then just as quickly ruled most of these out as they have become almost clichéd through overuse. I won't list these here, however, as I don't want to be seen a judging the choices of others, because I think title choice is a personal thing to be factored differently for each individual.

In the end I chose, With Altered Voice, as the main character, Seth, progresses through the story from selective mutism, where he uses notes and gestures as his voice, to oral speech. This change coincides with his acceptance of his sexual orientation and emergence as the developer of a gay community.

I hope it works...



Monday, March 25, 2013

Writing prompts


On writing prompts and wine


I attend a poetry group in the town where I live; a group made up of people from diverse backgrounds and skills who share a love of poetry and a desire to improve their knowledge and writing. A most talented mix that every month, without fail, produce beautifully crafted and insightful poems on a pre-set subject – the writing prompt.

At each meeting, members are given a word or theme prompt to write to before the next meeting. I’ve never been too fond of themed writing, actively shying away from it in groups I’ve been associated with in the past, although I’m not sure why I adopted this attitude in the past – perhaps it’s related to those early school essay writing prompts when my brain refused to think outside the square – who knows?

What is more important is that I can certainly see the value in it now. I have become an ardent devotee of writing to prompts and the creative challenge this offers. As a procrastinator of the highest order, I can while away the day/s with writing-related tasks, but doing little to no writing, so the first benefit to me is the discipline of the monthly writing prompt. I have the ‘word’, therefore I must write to it. Some prompts are easier than others are, yet all require deep thought and reflection before I even begin to put words down. This is the planning stage, when ideas are floated, lines tried on for size and the theme determined.  

We can all suffer from writer’s block from time to time and, while I have developed strategies to move beyond the empty screen in front of me, this is so much easier when I have a word to begin with as this tends to stir and inactive brain to action.

Prompts are the inspiration for an absent muse, the wide angle lens of vision, and the key to releasing the teacher within. They give us freedom to write beyond what we know, to explore genres beyond our comfort zones and wander in to unfamiliar territory.

I have found writing to prompts encourages free writing, squashing the inner editor that sometimes smothers the best ideas, metaphors and creativity.

The prompt for this month is wine. Easy, I hear some of you saying, with Bacchanalian visions already running to couplets, however, what is easy for some may prove more difficult for others. 

And, digressing again and thinking of wine, I was reminded of a vignette I wrote a few years ago for Spectrum Magazine and later reprinted in On the Tide.


Perpetual Endurance


The Tamar River winds its way from Bass Strait to Launceston, through a valley of scenic pastures, forests, diminishing orchards and high-yielding vineyards. It flows past small villages nestled on the riverbank; brings life force to picnic areas and water bird and wildlife sanctuaries; and meanders inquisitively into coves and inlets on its twice daily tidal journey.
          Fifty years ago our parents packed us into the back seat of the family car and embarked on a Sunday drive down the Tamar Valley in search of fresh fruit. Suntanned children with sandaled feet, we fought in silence for the privilege of sitting in the window seat, standing back from the door to allow our siblings to enter first, fearful of becoming trapped in the middle of the rear bench seat.  Our parents allocated window seats using a rotation system, in which each child took turns in occupying these valued spaces, but all too often the equity in allotment was at the mercy of easily distracted parental memory and manipulated by an older sibling who could state with veracity that it was their turn. Protests from a displaced child were ignored and, smarting from the victorious smirks of their victors, they would cross their arms in disgust and slump in feigned defeat. From this vantage point, below the range of the rear vision mirror the conquered became the conqueror, using sharp elbows for shoe horn effect, spearing them into the ribs of their siblings while moving rapidly from side to side to mark their middle seat territory. The seating arrangements settled, the family would venture forth, the obligatory car sickness strap bouncing optimistically off the sun-softened tar of the highway.
          The West Tamar valley was a Mecca for apple and pear connoisseurs in those far-off days, with orchards abounding from Legana to Rosevears to Beauty Point. Our parents would chat idly about the merits of Jonathons and Granny Smiths, Ladies in the Snow and Red and Golden Delicious; mentally window shopping at passing orchards. We passed the time playing 'I spy' or some other similar game, until someone cheated, and we were told to keep quiet in the back. Then we would slump into our seats, arms akimbo, and resume the rib poking until the next diversion. Thirty miles in the back of a stuffy car is a long way, particularly when each breath is accompanied by a jab from a brother’s elbow, so it was fortunate that our family had a child who suffered from carsickness, as this brought forced a break in the journey. We would stop at Beaconsfield to visit our grandparents and to clean up the bilious child while the car aired out, before we carried on to our destination; an orchard between Beaconsfield and Beauty Point.
          Although it was only a short drive from Beaconsfield to the orchard of choice, our excitement would rise when we turned off the highway to drive up the long dusty lane, pitted and rutted from tractors and trailers; past rows of apple and pear trees and brown grass thick with windfalls, to the grey walled packing shed beyond. A last warning from our mother to behave ourselves and not to act like hillbillies, dissolved in the cidery air as we fell over ourselves to be the first out of the car.
          Our father always asked how much half a case of apples would be, in a voice that hinted he would buy a full case if the price was right. The orchardist would give us an apple to taste, and we would polish them vigorously against our clothes, competing for the highest gloss, until our mother noticed and gave us the look. She had this knack of being able to frown with one side of her face, the side we could see, while she smiled at the rest of the world from the other side. It was a look that meant ‘stop what you’re doing right now and I’ll deal with you later’, and we were immediately subdued.
          Of course no drive down the Tamar was complete without a visit to the Beauty Point and Inspection Head wharves to see what ships were in and what they were loading. There was an exotic appeal to the towering steel hulls, words on their bows written in a language foreign to us, and we would watch in mesmerised fascination as men and cranes worked in unison to load immense wooden crates onto the ships.
          There was less gusto in the fight for the window seat for the return trip and the drive home was a more sombre affair. We nodded off to the drone of the engine and our parent’s quiet conversation, our elbows rested in an unspoken truce, put aside for another Sunday.
The passing years have brought changes to the valley, the orchards have been replaced by vineyards and wineries, centres for local produce and wine excellence. Families on Sunday drives now seek the best cellar door sales instead of orchards. They visit galleries and studios, to admire the work of local artists and artisans, and woodworkers, potters and artists have replaced fruit packers and packing case makers of days gone by.
          I visited a winery recently and as I watched the enduring travel of the Tamar from the fashionable deck of the restaurant, I pondered the changes half a century had wrought. I had almost reached the conclusion that the only thing that hadn’t changed was the river, when I was distracted by the chatter of children spilling from the back seat of a car parked nearby. Their mother alighted in perfectly groomed poise and looked towards her children and, although the profile presented to me showed a pleasant smile, I could tell by the children’s sudden silence that there were some things that would never change.


Sunday, March 24, 2013

Copyright and blogs



About five years ago I asked the question as to ownership of copyright of blog comments and it seemed opinion was divided at that time. Today I came across an Australian ARTS LAW INFORMATION SHEET on Legal issues for bloggers - I'm sure other countries have their own version - and I'm linking it here for general interest or follow the links on the information sheet outline below:


  1. What is a blog?
  2. What legal issues can arise?
  3. Copyright
    1. How does this affect my blog?
    2. Can I use quotes on my blog?
    3. Can I copy facts and ideas?
    4. How does a Creative Commons licence help?
    5. Who will own copyright in my blog comments page?
    6. Can I provide links to another blog or website?
    7. Can I use images owned by someone else on my blog?
    8. Can I count on "fair use" as a defence if I use someone else's work?
    9. Can collecting societies assist me?
  4. Moral rights
  5. Trade marks
    1. If I want to complain about a company – can I use their name and logo?
    2. Can I use the trade mark in my domain name, blog title or in the title of the blog post?
  6. Defamation
    1. Can I be liable for material posted by others on my blog post?
    2. Can I be liable for defamatory material contained on others' blogs or websites to which I provide a link to from my blog?
    3. The internet is borderless – can I be sued overseas?
    4. Is "freedom of speech" a defence in Australia?
  7. Right of publicity
  8. Other questions
    1. Should I have a disclaimer on my blog?
    2. Why has my blog been removed from the internet?
    3. What should I do if I get a cease and desist letter?
    4. Can I publicise the cease and desist letter on my blog?
      Australian Copyright Council (www.copyright.org.au) tel: (02) 8815 9799



Saturday, March 23, 2013

Bugger!

HP Deskjet F2400 All-in-One series
Yesterday I printed out the complete manuscript of Seth for the first time. Knowing the printer cartridge was likely to run out of ink at any time and to spare me any unnecessary angst at trying to stop the printing process, which sometimes causes the printer to loop back on itself and take hours to fix, I printed off fifty pages at a time. For some this would be a straight forward task but, for me, it is a different matter entirely as I have a numerically dyslexic brain that also has a tendency to loop back on to itself when confronted with any more than a two digit number.

 But I managed, even when the ink ran out on page 247, requiring a run to the shop – in the car that is – I no longer do running, and even walking is questionable some days – all executed without skipping a beat or a number. The result was three hundred pages of perfectly formatted manuscript, or was it. I checked off the submission requirements:

Manuscript – yes
200 word synopsis – yes
50 word author bio – yes
Title and page no on every page – pause – no - bugger – when I changed the footer I forgot to add the title with the page number.

Hm! What to do now? I’m not going to waste paper and ink and print it all over again and it’s pointless sending it off anywhere if I’ve ignored submission guidelines, so I need to find a solution.

Got it. I create a word doc with just the title in the footer and feed the pages back through. Not something I want to spend time on, but it’s a consequence for not reading the check list before printing – and another lesson learnt.

Friday, March 22, 2013

Adoption apology



Once again a challenge finishes and I lose the impetus for blogging, but yesterday's apology to those affected by adoption in this country has me asking some questions in an open letter to all politicians.


As an older age  adoptee and ex state ward, I have worked hard throughout my life to overcome the stigma and void of adoption – to turn these early experiences into a positive base on which to build my life, family and career. I am pleased to say I succeeded in all areas until events beyond my control, by way of government enquiries etc forced me to relive my past on almost a daily basis.

In 1996, I wrote of my experience as an adoptee as a way of providing truth in history, after reading so many biased reports and skewed data from ex workers and government sources see  The Little Mongrel - free to a good home only to find, in my older age I have no choice in the reliving of the pain of my separation from mother, and my failed adoption and subsequent institutional care, from the almost constant barrage over the past ten or more years of enquiry after enquiry, apology after apology, via the print, radio and television media, social media and through my email account.

This is not something I have desired nor sought, but my needs and those of others like me who chose to live our lives without the burden of the past were given no say in the matter. Yesterday the Australian government made an apology to those affected by past adoption practices in this country, yet saw fit to exclude many (myself included) due to the time frame mentioned, 1950 – 1970s. Given all adoptions that took place between 1926 and 1968 did so under the same legislation, I am wondering why those that occurred pre-1950 are deemed to have been of lesser or in this instance of no importance.

On what advice was this determined?

Although it is touted that most Australian adoptions took place between the 1950s and the 1970s, there is no statistical evidence to support this assertion and this ‘fact’ appears to be a by-product of the age of recent activists – which does not include mothers of those born prior to 1950, who would now be in their 80s and 90s and therefore less inclined or able to have political involvement or influence in the matter.

But what of these mothers and their children?

Out of fairness to all parties touched by adoption, I suggest no period should be included in statements regarding adoption. In my adoptive family of six children, five were born pre 1950 and one in 1951. All were born under the same adoption law and in a similar immediate post war social climate of harsh judgement and punitive consequences for those who transgressed. So, in effect, our youngest sister and her mother are deemed worthy of apology, while the others are of no consequence.

I understand what drives the activism of those affected during the stated time period, even though I struggle to understand the equity in experience between the pre 1960 mother and those who had their children during a time of increased social enlightenment, government financial support for single mothers and relaxed moral judgements that followed the feminist movement and saw progressive changes for women in the 60s, 70s and beyond.

Of course I would prefer to have all the past wrongs laid to rest, to see out the rest of my life in some semblance of peace, unmolested by the outcome of actions of others who think an apology by those who were never involved – most of them not even born at the time – will somehow magically make everything okay. And for some it will, but only for a short time, because nothing can erase the past. Nothing can give back that which has been stolen and irreversibly lost forever, just as nothing can give a sense of worth to those excluded from this apology and I ask you to ensure inclusion for ALL who were affected by adoption in this country, not just a select, more vocal demographic.